For most of us self doubt starts as soon as we wake up.
That little voice in our head chimes in with, “Oh no you don’t. Before you start thinking anything hopeful here, let’s just remember a few things:
What makesyou so great?
Who do you think you are writing a blog?
Who’s going to want to hear what you have to say?
Anybody could do this, so what makes you so different?
What makes you think you can make a living in this new city?
Who are you to think you are glorious and brave and that you could help other people?
Ok, so that might be the voice in MY head, but the point is this:
Marianne Williamson is saying that it is our responsibility and purpose on this planet to be as magnificent as we can be, so that we can each share our own special gifts with the world. That’s what we are here to do!
And she is right.
Knowing this, the pressure is off. Now we can allow ourselves to see that all that self doubt is just our subconscious talking to us. It’s the part of us that thinks it still has to protect us and keep us safe from the “what ifs”. So it doesn’t want us to know that we are great enough and strong enough and magnificent
enough and that we don’t even need it anymore!
All we need is to follow what feels true.
But even when we know that, sometimes we forget.
Maybe at work, someone criticizes us, or brings to our attention a mistake we made—something we missed. It might be automatic to think, “Wait a second. Maybe they’re right about me. Maybe I don’t know what I’m doing”—even if we’ve actually been doing it for decades.
Or maybe we think, “I can’t make this change. Where would I go? What would I do? How would I make it work?”
When we find ourselves here, how fabulous! It’s just another opportunity to practice who we want to be by reminding ourselves of these essential (notice I didn’t say “easy”) ideas:
It’s an old story
Some of us may have grown up learning how NOT to trust ourselves and our instincts. Not to be “too big for our britches”. But now we can ask ourselves, “is all that stuff really true? If part of it is, then we can choose to acknowledge those parts, learn from them, and make decisions from there. But if it’s not true, our self doubt is our old, worn out story.
Which brings us to……
It’s not real
Oh, thank God. Turns out our brain is just trying to make logical sense out of everything, and still thinks it has to protect us from risky business like sticking up for ourselves. But sometimes we just gotta go with what we really believe about ourselves and tell it, “thanks anyway, but I got this.”
(BTW: every time I do this I feel like I’m 10 feet tall and can take on the world—cuz I’m starting to believe I can!)
We can find validation within ourselves
It is time for us to believe that all the visions we have of ourselves being wonderful and capable and competent and shining are who we really are. In fact, the only reason we have all these thoughts in the first place is because the capacity for greatness is already there—inside us—just waiting to be born.
It’s an assignment
Yup. Just like homework.
We are all now enrolled in life’s new school called “Trust Yourself University” and unlearning everything we were taught in “You Don’t Matter Grammar School”. And even though there may never be a final exam, we will continue to get assignment after assignment until those neurons in our brains are firing anew, and self-validation and confidence are their new normal. Yes!
So now we can welcome in anxiety and self-skepticism, knowing that every time we accept their lessons, we are getting closer and closer to our own graduation into strength and serenity.
This is our path. We are always going to be trying to figure it out. So let’s say, “YES” to all our lessons—and hope they keep on comin’!